Informative & Thought-Provoking Posts From Around The Web – February Edition

February’s always a hot month for love with Valentine’s Day falling right in the middle. Here are a summary of posts from around the web this month that are informative and thought-provoking, covering various topics related to love and relationships. There’s something for everyone in this collection of news, articles and videos.

The History Of Marriage – Alex Gendler (A TED Talk)

“Marriage has always been shaped by society, and as a society’s structure, values and goals change over time, its ideas of marriage will continue to change along with them.” With marriage being a hotly discussed topic of late with increasing divorce rates and same-sex marriage legislation being debated by governments around the world, here is a brief history of marriage (via TED-Ed – Lessons Worth Sharing) in The History Of Marriage – Alex Gendler.

Everything You Wanted To Know About Polyamory But Were Afraid To Ask

Some of the estimated 1 million to 2 million Americans who choose to openly love more than one person share wisdom and advice for people who are considering “going poly,” or who are just curious about the practice in Everything you wanted to know about polyamory but were afraid to ask – inside the sex positive world of multiple partners.

10 Stubborn Sex Myths That Just Won’t Die, Debunked

Perhaps you’ve heard that size matters, women are naturally more bisexual than men, or that tantric sex means everlasting orgasms. The fact is, none of these things are quite true. Sex has been around forever, but we’re just starting to understand it. Lifehacker debunks 10 of the most common sex myths to set the record straight in 10 Stubborn Sex Myths That Just Won’t Die, Debunked.

Canadian Actress Ellen Page Comes Out As Gay At Time To Thrive Conference

Canadian actress Ellen Page made the brave decision to come out as gay at the Human Rights Campaign Foundation’s Time to Thrive Conference in Nevada, Las Vegas. Check out the post over at the Human Rights Campaign’s Tumblr page and watch the Juno star’s moving coming out speech below.

Facebook Offers Users 56 New Gender Options

Facebook announced this month that it will allow users to customise their gender, after consulting on the subject with gay and transgender advocacy groups. Facebook now offers users 56 new gender options and here’s what they all mean over at The Week.

In The Mood For Love (10 TED Talks On Love)

Love: it’s what makes the world go round. And also: all you need. As well as that thing, in addition to war, in which all is fair. Here, watch TED Talks about this most basic of human emotions in In The Mood For Love.

26 Of Hollywood’s Most Romantic Movie Moments In One & A Half Minutes

Watch 26 of Hollywood’s most romantic movie moments in a minute and a half in The Most Romantic Movie Moments Mashup by Fandango.

Philosophy Of Love Course On MIT’s OpenCourseWare

The MIT (Massachusetts Institute of Technology) OpenCourseWare is a web-based publication of virtually all MIT course content. OCW is open and available to the world and is a permanent MIT activity. This course,  titled ‘Philosophy of Love,’ explores the nature of love through works of philosophy, literature, film, poetry, and individual experience. It investigates the distinction among eros, philia, and agape. Students discuss ideas of love as a feeling, an action, a species of ‘knowing someone,’ or a way to give or take. Authors studied include Plato, Kant, Buber, D. H. Lawrence, Rumi, and Aristotle. Find out more and go through the course materials yourself here.

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January A to Z: Love Quotes

If you were following Find Keep Love‘s Twitter feed (@FindKeepLove) or Facebook page in January, we went through an A to Z of Love Quotes, covering musings on love by some of the greatest and most famous minds – philosophers, scientists, musicians, doctors, businessmen, and more. The following is the pick of the bunch; from Shakespeare to Stephen King, Einstein to Oprah, Mother Theresa to Christian Dior. As you’ll see below, love is thought of in many different ways, but it is something that we all experience, and hopefully this collection of quotes provokes your own thinking on love.

  • All days are nights to see till I see thee,
    And nights bright days when dreams do show thee me. – Shakespeare
  • A life without love is like a year without summer. – Swedish proverb
  • Anyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart. – Anonymous
  • Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. – Lao Tzu
  • Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all. – Saint Augustine
  • Can miles truly separate you from friends… If you want to be with someone you love, aren’t you already there? – Richard Bach
  • Do I love you because you are beautiful,

    Or are you beautiful because I love you?

     – Rodgers and Hammerstein

  • Don’t hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love. – Honore de Balzac
  • Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation. – Kahlil Gibran
  • Faults are thick where love is thin. – Anonymous
  • For, you see, each day I love you more,
    Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow. – Rosemonde Gérard
  • Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love. – Albert Einstein

  • Give her two red roses, each with a note. The first note says “For the woman I love” and the second, “For my best friend”. – Anonymous

  • Give love and unconditional acceptance to those you encounter, and notice what happens. – Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

  • He whom love touches not walks in darkness. – Plato

  • Hearts are not to be had as a gift. Hearts are to be earned. – William Butler Yeats

  • If I could reach up and hold a star for every time you’ve made me smile, the entire evening sky would be in the palm of my hand. – Anonymous

  • I love people. I love my family, my children… but inside myself is a place where I live all alone and that’s where you renew your springs that never dry up. – Pearl S. Buck

  • If I had to choose between loving you and breathing, I would use my last breath to say I love you. – Anonymous

  • Just because somebody doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have. – Anonymous

  • Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong. – Ella Fitzgerald

  • Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. – Oscar Wilde

  • Know that you are your greatest enemy, but also your greatest friend. – Jeremy Taylor

  • Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love. – Lao Tzu

  • Love is not looking at each other, but looking together in the same direction. – Antoine de Saint-Exupery

  • Love is the little things we do for each other. – Anonymous

  • Love is a wonderful thing. You never have to take it away from one person to give it to another. There’s always more than enough to go around. – Pamela de Roy

  • Love is the only thing you get more of by giving it away. – Tom Wilson

  • Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down. –

    Oprah Winfrey

  • Life is to be fortified by many friendships. To love and to be loved is the greatest happiness of existence. – Sydney Smith

  • Live for love. Without love, you don’t live. – Anonymous

  • Line by line, moment by moment, special times are etched into our memories in the permanent ink of everlasting love in our relationships. – Gloria Gaither

  • Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a teardrop. – Anonymous

  • Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it. – Song of Solomon 8:7

  • May no gift be too small to give, nor too simple to receive, which is wrapped in thoughtfulness and tied with love. – L.O. Baird
  • Men always want to be a woman’s first love – what women like is to be a man’s last romance. – Oscar Wilde
  • Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There’s too much fraternizing with the enemy. – Henry Kissinger
  • No man is truly married until he understands every word his wife is NOT saying. – Anonymous
  • Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited love. – Charlie Brown
  • Once you have learned to love, you will have learned to live. – Anonymous
  • One forgives to the degree that one loves. – François Duc de La Rochefoucauld
  • One is very crazy when in love. – Sigmund Freud
  • One of the most effectual ways of pleasing and of making one’s self loved is to be cheerful; joy softens more hearts than tears do. – Madame de Sartory
  • Only in the agony of parting do we look into the depths of love. – George Eliot
  • Please be careful with my heart. You can take it, just don’t break it or my world would fall apart. – Anonymous
  • People are unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered. Love them anyway. – Mother Teresa
  • Pure love is a willingness to give without a thought of receiving anything in return. – Peace Pilgrim
  • Put love first. Entertain thoughts that give life. And when a thought or resentment, or hurt, or fear comes your way, have another thought that is more powerful — a thought that is love. – Mary Manin Morrissey
  • Quality means doing it right when no one is looking. – Henry Ford
  • Resolve to be thyself: and know, that he who finds himself, loses his misery. – Matthew Arnold
  • Real loss only occurs when you’ve loved something more than you love yourself. – from Good Will Hunting
  • So, fall asleep love, loved by me… for I know love, I am loved by thee. – Robert Browning
  • Someone who does not run towards the allure of love walks a road where nothing lives. – Rumi
  • Seduce my mind and you can have my body, find my soul and I’m yours forever. – Anonymous
  • Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own home. Give love to your children, to a wife or husband, to a next-door neighbour. – Mother Teresa
  • Take love, multiply it by infinity and take it to the depths of forever… and you still have only a glimpse of how I feel for you. – from Meet Joe Black
  • The most beautiful view is the one I share with you. – Anonymous
  • The most important things are the hardest to say, because words diminish them. – Stephen King
  • The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart. – Helen Keller
  • The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to forget is the happiest. – Anonymous
  • The greatest happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved – loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves. – Victor Hugo
  • Ultimately love is everything. – M. Scott Peck
  • Unless you love someone, nothing else makes any sense. – E. E. Cummings
  • Understanding can overcome any situation, however mysterious or insurmountable it may appear to be. – Norman Vincent Peale
  • Valor grows by daring, fear by holding back. – Publilius Syrus
  • Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. – Marcus Aurelius Antoninus
  • We are not loved because we are valued; we are valued because we are loved. – William Sloan Coffin
  • What I need to live has been given to me by the earth. Why I need to live has been given to me by you. – Anonymous
  • What the world really needs is more love and less paper work. – Pearl Bailey
  • When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace. – Jimi Hendrix
  • Why do people have to lose things to find out what they really mean? – Anonymous
  • (e)Xpose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free. – Jim Morrison
  • You can’t buy love, but you can pay heavily for it. – Henny Youngman
  • You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly. – Sam Keen
  • You don’t love someone because they’re beautiful, they are beautiful because you love them. – Anonymous
  • You will never know true happiness until you have truly loved, and you will never understand what pain really is until you have lost it. – Anonymous
  • Zest is the secret of all beauty. There is no beauty that is attractive without zest. – Christian Dior

What are your favourite quotes on love?

Throughout February, Find Keep Love posted an A to Z of inspirational quotes, and please do keep in touch on Twitter and Facebook. If there are any topics you’ve been thinking about yourself and want covered on the blog, leave a comment below or contact Find Keep Love at findkeeplove@gmail.com.

Part 2: Keep Love. 10 Ways To Surprise Your Partner

Throughout the ages, men and women alike have pondered what love is. It has been written about, spoken of, debated on, and argued by millions for thousands of years. If you were following Find Keep Love’s Twitter feed (@FindKeepLove) or Facebook page in January, I posted an A to Z of Love Quotes, covering musings on love by some of the greatest and most famous minds – philosophers, scientists, musicians, doctors, and businessmen.

Oxford Dictionaries defines love as “a strong feeling of affection,” “a great interest and pleasure in something,” “a person or thing that one loves,” or as a verb to “feel deep affection or sexual love for (someone).” From our own experience, we know that love is much more complex than these simple definitions suggest – the true meaning of love transcends any words we might use to attempt its definition. Love is defined, felt and experienced differently by different people, but however you try to define it, I strongly believe that love is largely defined by our actions, like the old cliché, “Actions speak louder than words.

Love without action is not real love, and paraphrasing what Kim Casali once said, “Love is the little things you do for each other.” Something similar can be found in the Bible in 1 John 3:18: “My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.” So your love for someone will be demonstrated in the things you do for them. These are things that you do not because you have to, but because you want to, making their comfort, happiness and/or pleasure the sole aim of your actions, and not for your own personal interest, gratification or reward.

Here are ten ideas to get you started on how to surprise your loved one with random nice things. As I mentioned in my previous post on Relationship Maintenance & Avoiding Relationship Ruts, the monetary value of the gift/action is not what is important, but the thoughtfulness, imagination and love represented by it. You can never force or buy love, despite what some people may think.

  • Buy a small treat when coming home from a trip away somewhere.
  • Leave love notes in random locations around the house: on the pillow, on your partner’s desk, in your partner’s pocket, or on a Post-it note on today’s page in their diary.
  • Cook their favourite meal or, better yet, prepare a meal together. If they cook, you clean the dishes.
  • If your bath/shower is big enough, sneak in there with them every now and then.
  • Plan a surprise date – tell them nothing of your plans, except the time, date and place to meet you. You could extend this to an overnight trip somewhere, or even something over a weekend, if you’re feeling particularly ambitious.
  • If your partner is working on some project or hobby, offer to help them out.
  • Instead of buying a card for your partner’s next birthday, Valentine’s Day or your anniversary, buy a blank card, get some coloured pens, get creative, and write your partner a special message from the heart.
  • Write your partner a love letter and slip it somewhere they’re likely to find it during the day.
  • Pamper your partner for a night – be at their service for a night. Cook them dinner, make them their favourite drink, run them a bath, give them a massage (or something more erotic), and let them fall asleep hearing how much you mean to them.
  • Make a handmade coupon book – the coupons could be for anything: a massage, a home-cooked meal, a meal out, a night away. If you feel really generous (and courageous!), you could make one or more of them blank.

Not only can you show your love for your partner with these simple things and help maintain your relationship, but you will feel better about yourself. Like giving to charity or carrying out volunteer work, people are happier themselves when they are giving to or helping others. And if you’ve taken my advice from my previous post, Modern Day Dating & Scheduling Dates, and scheduled a date night, try taking it in turns each week at organising the night – a great opportunity to surprise your partner!

What is a random nice thing that you do (or could do) for your partner (or loved one) to show them that you love them?